The Top 5 Misconceptions about Surrogacy
Surrogate motherhood is an incredible gift that women can give to deserving couples in need. Surrogate mothers help couples and individuals all over the world create the family they've always dreamed of. However, many potential surrogates and prospective parents can be hesitant about committing to this journey because of misplaced ideas and assumptions they have about surrogacy. There is an abundance of information out there, but a lot of it can boil down to the personal opinion of one individual or an over-hyped news article. In order to help clear up some of the most prevalent misconceptions out there today, we've identified these five myths and debunked them for all prospective surrogates and parents alike:
1. Surrogate mothers become too emotionally attached to the child
Though it’s true that a surrogate can form an emotional bond with the baby during pregnancy, the surrogate can also form a very strong, trusting relationship with the intended parents. Additionally, it should be noted that surrogates are thoroughly counseled and evaluated in order to determine that they are completely understanding of what their role will be during the surrogacy process, that they are comfortable with what’s expected of them from start to finish, and what the experience of giving the child to his or her intended parents will consist of post-delivery.
2. Surrogates only care about compensation
Though it’s true that surrogates are compensated for their time and efforts during this process, the intentions of each and every individual cannot be boiled down to one sweeping statement. Surrogates choose to become gestational carriers for a wide variety of reasons, and yes, even if one of the reasons happens to be financial this does not mean that your surrogate isn't incredibly honored and proud to help build your family. Surrogacy requires a great deal of altruism, effort, energy, commitment, time, empathy, and understanding. Its rewards are often highly emotional, with lifelong friendships made throughout the process.
3. The baby will be related to the surrogate genetically
In a traditional surrogacy arrangement, the baby is related to the surrogate mother. However, in a gestational surrogacy arrangement, the baby and the surrogate do not share genetics. In the latter type of surrogacy, embryos are made using eggs from the intended mother or eggs that were donated, and sperm from the intended father or a sperm donor that is used.
4. A surrogate mother won’t care for my child as much as she does for her children
Surrogate mothers are chosen for this role because they have proven their serious commitment toward the incredible task of helping someone build their family. Surrogate mothers are fully aware of the tremendous responsibility they bear and they are devoted toward a healthy, happy delivery.
5. Women only choose surrogacy to avoid pregnancy and keep their figure
Surrogate motherhood is a very serious, time consuming process for all of those involved. Often, using a surrogate is a couple or individual’s last chance at having a family with one or both partner’s genetic material – which means that the insinuation that a woman would pay a surrogate to have her child in order to avoid a pregnancy is completely inaccurate.