The Surrogate Mother Checklist

Becoming a surrogate mother is an incredibly generous decision, and surrogates deserve a great deal of support before, during and after their surrogacy journey. Any first-time surrogate can admit that they have questions from the moment they fill out their application, and Surrogacy America is happy to address every concern. Ask our case managers a question!

One great way to help gestational surrogates feel better prepared for the process is to know what to expect along the way, from knowing if you qualify for our surrogate mother program, to the questions to ask before signing a surrogacy contract, and even what to bring to the hospital for delivery.

Before you apply to become a gestational surrogate

  • Make sure you meet all the requirements
    • Some requirements include: age (between 21 and 40), BMI (19-32), obstetric history (must have given birth to at least one child and be raising that child), source of income (cannot be on public assistance), and criminal history (must pass a background check).
  • Have a plan for discussing surrogacy with family and friends
    • Knowing how to talk about your surrogacy plans to your children, other family members and friends is important. Not everyone will be familiar with the surrogacy process, and even well-meaning inquires can seem judgmental when coming from a lack of education about third-party reproduction. No one wants to be put on the defensive about their choices, so anticipating the conversations you’ll have and knowing what you want to say can be helpful.

Before you sign the surrogacy agreement

  • When a surrogacy agreement is being drafted, both parties -- the intended parents and the gestational surrogate -- will have their own legal representation. This is the appropriate time to vocalize your preferences on topics such as the relationship you will share with the intended parents during and after surrogacy, medical concerns and hypotheticals, and who will attend doctor appointments and delivery.

Before you give birth

  • To be a surrogate, you must have given birth to at least one child who you are currently raising, so you’re already familiar with what you actually need and didn’t end up using during your last delivery. Because surrogacy involves the intended parents who may also be present at the birth, there are a few items to bring that are especially important to have on the day of delivery:
    • Insurance information
    • Birth plan
    • Surrogacy agreement or contract
    • Pre-birth order

Related Topics: Surrogate application, Surrogacy agreement