A Surrogate’s Guide: Preparing for Delivery

With labor and delivery, a gestational surrogate’s journey comes to an end. This is an especially exciting time for both the surrogate and her intended parents. Finally, the moment everyone has been waiting for since the journey first began is here, and the dreams of newly made parents have come true thanks to the effort and dedication of a surrogate. Surrogacy really is a gift from one woman to a couple or individual in need, and delivery is a very special time for all involved.

Gestational Surrogacy

When women first consider the idea of becoming a gestational surrogate, one of the most common concerns is what it will be like to deliver a baby that is not their own child. In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate has no biological relationship to the baby she carries and delivers. The sperm and egg used to make an embryo are that of the intended parents or from donors. However, even without this biological connection, as a surrogate you are still carrying a baby for nine months, and many women wonder if their delivery will be emotionally trying because of connections or bonds they may form with the baby.

Becoming a Gestational Surrogate

It’s important to remember that gestational surrogate applicants are screened for many purposes before they are accepted, including physical and psychological assessments. These tests determine if you are physically and mentally prepared for surrogacy, and if your motivation for wanting to become a surrogate is proper. Those who are accepted enter into surrogacy agreements know that they are carrying a child for another couple, and that at the end of their pregnancy, they will deliver a child that is desperately wanted and already deeply loved by another family. This knowledge is an important part of surrogacy preparation but also something that is a key part of labor and delivery.

Preparing for Delivery

Delivering a child can be a highly emotional experience. Labor and delivery can go very quickly or take hours, and decisions about the period in which you deliver the baby will be made prior to conception when you first agree to a surrogacy arrangement with the intended parents. We’ve listed some common points that are discussed regarding labor and delivery during a surrogate pregnancy.

  • Who will be in the delivery room with you during labor?
  • What would you like to happen in the time post-delivery? What is everyone’s expectations during this time?
  • Will you share contact or a relationship with the intended parents post-delivery?

Surrogacy America strongly advises that you exercise complete honesty about your expectations and desires throughout your entire pregnancy, and this includes labor and delivery. It is unwise simply to assume that everyone is on the same page, and this assumption can lead to confusion and hurt feelings if a misunderstanding occurs. Our case managers can advise on how best to address your surrogate pregnancy concerns in order to enjoy a stress-free surrogacy journey.

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