How to Enjoy a Stress-Free Surrogacy Journey (for Surrogates)
Surrogate motherhood is an amazing experience that provides those who agree to carry a baby for another couple or individual with a lifetime of memories – surrogates know that their role in the process helped complete a family who needed their help. Many former gestational surrogates have stated that even with the support of an agency like Surrogacy America and from the baby’s intended parents, there are still a few tips they can offer future surrogates. We’ve outlined a few of those top tips below.
- Take advantage of support groups.
Surrogate motherhood is a unique experience – your close friends and family may have questions about even the most basic aspects of the surrogacy arrangement. Many former surrogates report that even though they are happy to help educate others on surrogacy, it can still be beneficial to join a local or online surrogate mothers’ support group. Speaking with others who are currently acting as surrogate mothers or even those who have done so in the past can offer an inside perspective on challenges or questions you may experience along the way. Agencies and intended parents will strive to provide support any way they can, but sometimes hearing a suggestion from a fellow surrogate is what’s needed.
- Be honest about your expectations.
It can be easy to get caught up in the fact that as a surrogate mother, you are going to make an immense impact on the lives of a couple who so strongly desire to have a baby. Surrogacy is an emotional journey, even with the understanding that you are acting as a carrier for another couple’s child. During this time, some surrogates find that because they are so excited about helping others, they let some of their personal expectations and wishes take a backseat. If you have any concerns or wishes prior to entering into a surrogacy agreement, it is essential that you voice how you feel in order to build a successful and stress-free journey for all parties.
- Research. Research.
Surrogacy America is available to address any questions or concerns you may have before and during the surrogacy journey, but many former surrogates report that in addition to agency support, they found that researching surrogacy and learning about the process on their own was helpful. If you are interested in learning more about the surrogacy process, we recommend the following resources: