Answers to Top Concerns Prospective Parents Have about Surrogacy
We realize that even after prospective parents have committed to using a surrogate to help build their family, they still may have some lingering concerns about the process. This is completely normal. Surrogacy is a very rewarding experience for both the intended parents and their surrogate carrier. However, it is only natural that an arrangement for an individual to bring another couple’s child into the world would give rise to some concern. At Surrogacy America, our staff is trained to make this process as straightforward as possible, which is why we are addressing some of the top concerns prospective parents have come to us with regarding surrogacy.
1. Will the baby feel like mine?
It’s very much ingrained into our minds that when we start our families we’ll go through the standard procedure of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. However, this just isn’t the case for everyone who wishes to have a child, such as LGBT couples or those struggling with infertility. Fortunately, there are alternatives like surrogacy that give couples and individuals the opportunity to start their family with the help of a surrogate. Some prospective parents, women in particular, worry that because they are not carrying the baby themselves that when the baby is born he or she won’t feel like “theirs”. This is a common misconception, and from our experience, it is far from the truth. When the child is born, prospective parents become parents. The child is theirs in every way, and they have the time needed to bond with their new baby.
2. How much contact will I have with my surrogate carrier during the pregnancy?
Communication between the surrogate carrier and prospective parents will be determined before a surrogacy agreement is reached. It is up to both parties to come to an understanding regarding how much communication will take place over the course of the pregnancy. At Surrogacy America, we often find that surrogates and prospective parents choose to communicate fairly often, and even form strong friendships during the course of the pregnancy and after the birth of the child.
3. How are surrogates screened and prepared for their role?
Women who have successfully applied to become surrogate mothers are very carefully screened before their first surrogacy cycle. Screenings for surrogates can include the following tests: medical, a mock cycle, psychological, and a partner screening in which the surrogate’s partner may be asked to undergo a blood test. These screenings take place at either the chosen clinic of the prospective parents or a clinic chosen by Surrogacy America’s experienced staff. In general, women who are approved to become surrogate mothers are very well prepared for their role. They understand that surrogacy is an extremely generous act that will require their time and effort, but that everything they are doing will help make someone else’s dream of having a family a reality.